Have you ever wondered why some men are so good that at parties people gather around them? These men seem to be magical creatures having great powers.
They seem to be attracting people everywhere they go. They are smart, funny and always have something cool to say. How, you wonder, can I become like these people? You wonder if you too could become this magical creature that people are drawn to; become the life of the party. You can. Just follow these simple steps:
Take Good Care of Yourself
Yes, the most basic thing ever. You can’t walk into a party looking like an emaciated, unclean hobo living under a bridge and expect people to warm up to you. On the contrary they will kick you out. Looking stylish, and smelling good have nothing do with how handsome you look (it helps), but it is more to do with how you carry yourself.
Get the Booze, Always
Don’t go to a party like a cheapskate. Always carry some wine or beers or cake. No one likes freeloaders, even if you have been invited there. People love those who bring liquor to their parties. It’s okay to have more booze at a party than run out.
Initiate Cross-pollination
A party is all about variety, diversity. An assorted box of chocolates always has more takers than something with only one kind. Go around, circulate. Bring people closer, introduce them to each other. Not only will this make you more likeable, it will also show you as someone who is well connected. It will also pique people’s interest, more ideas will be shared, and more stories will be told.
Put on your Entertainer Hat
People love someone who has energy, someone who is buzzing about, someone who cracks jokes and laughs at himself, not someone who has their back against the wall nursing their drink. The more you go around, talk and laugh, the more people know you, become aware of you. A little self-deprecating humor helps too, to break the ice. We had a tug-of-war match in our office last evening, and my team said, “You don’t even need to pull, just stand there, that will be enough to scare the opposition off.”
Don’t Be Lady Chatterly
It is also important to be quiet once in a while and be a good listener. No one likes a self-obsessed chatter box. Ask questions that are open ended, which lead to more conversation. Instead of asking, “Did you like Hangover 2?” ask, “What is your favorite scene from Hangover 2?” Ask questions where people can share their experiences: Which is that one book that changed your life? What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to? What will you do if this world were devoid of alcohol? Listen and listen well, and don’t be too eager to jump in with your own hilarious anecdote always.
Be Helpful To The Host
Be the man the host runs to in case there is trouble. Always check on the person who is hosting, ask them if they need anything: can you get anything? Ensure they are well taken care of because that will ensure they call you to every party in town. You will just become that trustworthy, resourceful go-to guy. Now who doesn’t want that?
Don't Be A Fool, Son
No one likes a hurling idiot. No one wants to deal with a blabbering moron who drank too much. If you see a drunken girl in trouble, make sure you inform the host (especially if you know him). Don’t end up doing something stupid, like trying to take advantage of the girl, because it will not only screw your reputation, it will also get you boycotted from the party circuit.
Arrange by Julius Choudhury
